I used to think so, too, for quite a while until I found some way to reconcile the end of Éowyn's story with her status as a warrior heroine. It just requires a slightly strained interpretation of the text.

Okay, I am probably twisting the Lord of the Rings so that I can enjoy reading it after the Women's Lib movement, but anyway here (http://greenbooks.theonering.net/guest/files/050101_02.html) might be some food for thought. A defense of Faramir/Éowyn by a self-proclaimed feminist, which I quite liked.

Or I might just be still influenced by the discourse of romantic love which is only an invention of the patriarchal and bourgeois establishment for the subjection of women in entrenched power hierarchies. ;)